Remember this one piece of advice: Don't bring anyone home until you are sure they would make a good long term partner. You do not want to b e introducing your kids to someone until you are sure this person is likley to be around a long time. If you take only one point away from this article, please let it be this. Your children are in the midst of an enormous adjustment that affects them on many levels. The scope of your children's world is smaller than your own, which means that ANY changes within that realm have greater significance. Divorce has already turned your children's world upside down: Let them become comfortable with their new lives before introducing another unknown, which frankly, is exactly what a new partner will be!